How to Spot Psychological Manipulators


By Dr. Perry, PhD

“You learn a lot about people when they don’t get what they want.” ~Anonymous

Like the waves that forcefully crash on the shore and later gracefully retreat, there is an ebb and flow to life. The seasons change and the flowers bloom, only to later wilt. We all give and take in our daily lives. Our interactions with one another are overall based on a healthy exchange of emotions, ideas and positive social interactions. There are some individuals, that like crashing waves have a disruptive influence in our lives. They seem only interested in profiting from the relationship and will give little or nothing in exchange. They use psychological manipulation to disguise their true intent.

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that uses deception, underhanded tactics and abuse in order to achieve the interests of the manipulator. The manipulator may use these tactics for…

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Be Armed With Confidence


We live in a world where self-image is reflected by the assessment of others. We then internalize how others see us and from this reflection causes us to ponder over how we view ourselves. If you are armed with an awareness of confidence you can’t be defeated, being armed gives you a sense of hope. You are who you believe you are. Your duty is to believe the value God has placed on you – an authentic positive self-esteem. Confidence is the underpinning of self-esteem. The more confidence you cultivate, the more you appreciate and love yourself. You create your own reality and others respond to it. Only you can place a wholesome value on yourself. Reflect on this quote “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  So be armed with confidence.

L. Jones – Yu’Niquely Created

Lord Encourage Me

“Lord Encourage Me” originally posted on


Habakkuk 2:3 (NKJV): For the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.

Be encouraged.  Everything is going to be alright.  Remember, the just lives by faith. But that can be discouraging and overwhelming at times when we take our focus off of God.  Habakkuk, one of God’s prophets, became discouraged because he felt God was not moving quickly enough for him. God told him: But these things I plan won’t happen right away; but at the time I have decided. You can trust what I say.  It may take longer than you expected. But keep on waiting.  Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled.  If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient!  Keep on waiting. They will not be overdue a single day (Habakkuk 2:3 CEV, LBT, ).
Let’s Pray: God I ask You in Jesus’ name, Encourage Me!  Speak to my heart.  Let me know that the best is yet to come and everything is going to be alright.   Encourage me Lord Jesus, to wait upon the blessings You have promised me.  Let me not get weary in well doing so that I will reap the abundant harvest that You have promised me.  Let me not faint, but help me to wait on You and be of good courage.  But while I am waiting, Lord encourage me. Strengthen me in my faith walk.  Help me keep my focus on You at all times.  Help me to keep a heart of worship and thanksgiving.  Bless me with the strength, peace, joy, encouragement and the spirit of obedience to continue to live a lifestyle that is pleasing unto You as I wait on You Lord Jesus to come through for me.  God don’t let me be put to shame.   Encourage me Lord Jesus!  God all that I have asked of You in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of this prayer and all those I know who stand in need of encouragement today.  Encourage each of us Lord Jesus.  Amen.

I will bless the LORD at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth (Psalm 34:1).

But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint  (Isaiah 40:31).
But thanks be to God, who giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Cori.15:57).

In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you (1 Thes.5:18).

Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., B.S., BCPCLC
Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach


L. Jones – Yu’Niquely Created

Fear Strikes Out

Strike one, Strike two, Strike three you’re out.  The law of the games states three strikes and you are out. When fear strikes, strike back even harder. You can knock fear out of the ball park.  Fear is a spiritual battle; the enemy speaks lies to our mind to cause us to be fearful. He will make us think that we are incapable and can’t accomplish what we are assigned to do. Don’t allow anyone to get you off course or discourage you to pursue. Fear will hold you back from operating in your purpose. Renounce all access to fear and declare in the name of Jesus what God says…. “I declare that God has not given me the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.”

Fear is the enemy strategy to paralyze and hinder us from moving forward. However, we must neutralize the negative echoes of every whisper in our ears to distract us from making a home run and listening for the voice of God.  Jesus teaches us in John 10:27 that His sheep know His voice. Moses heard God voice on the backside of the desert. God spoke to Mary through the angel Gabriel. God is your Coach. And when God is your coach you are out of the game of fear. Step out with your God-given authority into your purpose and make that home run on fear. You are on the Lord’s team and you are a winner.

L. Jones- Yu’Niquely Created

Survivor Is Your Name

Hello Beloved.

When you think of a survivor, you think of hope and surviving. Surviving comes from the word survive and the word survivor, survivor can be defined as one person or thing that survives hardship to live. Survive as stated in Webster is to outlive, to continue to function or prosper despite; withstand. Are you a survivor? Your survivor becomes your source of strength. When all hope is gone this is when you must fight, let your survival instinct kick in and decide to survive. If you can see yourself surviving then you can survive, can you see yourself? If not, plant the seed of survival in your mind and say I can survive.

With God on your side, you can’t lose you are in a win-win situation. You will survive. God knows the way that we should take, and when you have been tried you shall come forth as pure gold. Many of us have manage life’s challenges through hopelessness, frustration and unseen forces that have ambushed us, yet not allowed our challenges to confine us or hold us back. You are resilient, bounce back stronger and tougher from whatever life throws your way. Even in all these things we are more than conquerors. nothing shall separate us from the love of God. He will move you from shame to fame, insult to result, sorrow to glory, disgrace to His grace, labour to favour, mockery to victory, a test to a testimony, May the Lord raise you from faith to faith and glory to glory.

L. Jones – Yu’Niquely Created



Poetry: You Are Who You Are


You are who you are for a reason.
You’re part of an intricate plan.
You’re a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God’s special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb,
You’re just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God’s plan in mind,
And they bear the Master’s seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into his likeness you’d grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You’ve been formed by the Master’s rod.
You are who you are, beloved,
Because there is a God!

written by Russell Kelfer

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